The MX-500 has been pretty widely complemented around here. It is not a JP1 remote, so you don't need to (can't) do anything with that. There is this goodie if you want to use your computer to configure the MX-500. It should be able to learn everything without much trouble. Several people here are using them with 950's, apparently with a great deal of success. As with any universal remote, it will take some work on the front end to get it set up so you and your wife can readily use it to control everything.

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