RAF,
My thoughts and prayers are also with you and your wife.
I am sure you are already aware of all of the support that hospice provides other than in house care and I am sure you are availing yourself to that support. The hospice people in my area were "angels walking" when my mother in-law was in a similar circumstance. These people touched our lives in such a way that I will never forget.
God Bless,
Mike Piotti