With DVD-A and SACD, unless your speakers are such that their ideal cut-off frequency is 80HZ, you will never be able to end up with the "best" settings. The reason is the 950's "double bass" issue.
If your speakers are perfect for the 80Hz setting, then ditch the ICBM and use the 950's 80Hz "on" setting.
If your speakers are not at their best with a 80Hz setting, then choose the 950's 80Hz setting "off" and do all of your frequency selection with the ICBM. The problem with this approach is that while the 950 will pass the below-80Hz information through to your speakers, it also sums it and sends in to your sub(s). It's one of those weird, and frustrating, design choices that will hopefully get weeded out of their next generation pre-pro.
More and more DVD-A and SACD players are offering quite extensive built-in bass management capabilities. You may want to go that route instead. But you will, again, be faced with the double bass issue with the 950.
ps. I'm using such an SACD player, and an ICBM, and a Model 950. Getting the bass calibrated properly was a very lengthy proposition because of some design faults with the SACD. Even when I came up with a work-around for the SACD's fault I was still left with the 950's. Because of the 950's double bass issue I had to trim the sub signal back a bit. While this cut down on the effect of the summed bass that the 950 was sending the subs' way, it of course also reduced the level of any "pure" .1 bass that the recording engineer had placed in that channel. As I first said, the only optimal solution is if your speakers are best served by the 950 and its 80 Hz setting. Everything else is a compromise.
Jeff Mackwood
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Jeff Mackwood